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This Is How You Lose Her
By Junot Diaz
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| Publisher: |
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| FABER & FABER |
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| 06-Sep-2012 |
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| 9780571294190 |
Observer review
the observer Sat 22 September 2012
Q: What do Junot Díaz's three books have in common? A: Yunior, the flamboyantly unfaithful Dominican narrator who talks a streetwise American-English studded with Spanish slang. This repetition is a brave gambit with an enormous payoff. In Drown (short stories, 1996), Yunior's voice was not quite fully formed. Nervous of its own newness, the book included a glossary for some of the Spanish terms (coyly omitting words such as leche or chochas Google Translate if you're not hispanophone). The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao (Pulitzer prize-winning novel, 2007) left the Spanish unglossed and borrowed from the vocabularies of sci-fi and fantasy. Now this second collection refines Yunior's voice further, into an utterly convincing idiolect that takes in delicate literary detail and tough bilingual argot.
In Díaz, there are always other stories taking place away from the main narrative. Yunior is centre stage in This Is How You Lose Her: although his brother, Rafa, has cancer, his primary concern is his own life and heartbreaks. Díaz's great achievement is to remain true to the helpless solipsism that possesses all of us most of the time, while allowing the reader to see those other stories on the periphery of Yunior's purview.
"Invierno" is a spare, unsentimental account of immigration. Rafa, Yunior and their mother have come to New Jersey to join their father. It is snowing and Papi won't let them leave the apartment for weeks. We follow Yunior's struggles with language and his doomed attempts to befriend the white children from the neighbouring apartment. In the background, Papi is having an affair. Yunior is no naive, unreliable narrator; he knows, more or less, what's going on, but he is more worried about taming his afro-ish hair to avoid trouble from Papi (who eventually shaves it off). Here is the beautifully understated ending, when the family minus Papi finally leave the apartment: "We even saw the ocean, up there at the top of Westminster, like the blade of a long, curved knife. Mami was crying but we pretended not to notice. We threw snowballs at the sliding cars and once I removed my cap just to feel the snowflakes scatter across my cold, hard scalp."
This Is How You Lose Her: the title announces the theme, which is, overwhelmingly, infidelity. Díaz writes a cracking love rat and the only weak moments are the self-consciously right-thinking ones. (Like "Otravida, Otravez", the one non-Yunior narrative, which attempts to tell the woman's side of things.) Alongside the addictive voice and killer eye for detail ("his stubble quivering in beads of water, compass needles"), the chief pleasure of these stories is the unflinching honesty Díaz brings to the subject of betrayal.
In "The Sun, the Moon, the Stars", Yunior loves Magda but cheats on her with Cassandra anyway. Magda asks if Cassandra was good in bed. "To be honest, baby, it was lousy," Yunior tells her then confides to the reader: "That one is never very believable but you got to say it anyway no matter how stupid and unreal it sounds: say it." Later, we learn that in the first week of knowing Cassandra, Yunior "made the mistake of telling her that sex with Madga had never been top notch". Cassandra advises him "to find a girlfriend who could fuck". And they soon wind up in bed together.
This is Yunior remembering the beginning of the infidelity: "The first night we did it and it was good, too, she wasn't false advertising I felt so lousy that I couldn't sleep, even though she was one of those sisters whose body fits next to you perfect. I was like, She knows, so I called Magda right from the bed and asked her if she was OK.
You sound strange, she said.
I remember Cassandra pressing the hot cleft of her pussy against my leg and me saying, I just miss you."
It's all there: every lie dissected, each surprising emotion itemised. A reviewer's cliche, perhaps, but if you liked his two previous books, you'll love this one, because Díaz is boldly, brilliantly, doing the same thing again, only better.
Guardian review
the guardian Fri 14 September 2012
In "The Sun, the Moon, the Stars", the first story in a new collection by Junot Díaz, the author's serial narrator, Yunior, a young Dominican-American, cheats on his girlfriend Magdalena. She finds out, via a helpfully detailed letter "shit you wouldn't even tell your boys drunk" sent to her by the other woman. Magda calls him "a typical Dominican man, a sucio, an asshole". Why didn't he just deny it, his friends ask. The relationship totters along. Yunior contorts himself into positions of penitence, but Magdalena withdraws. The couple go on holiday to the Dominican Republic, abandoning Yunior's relatives in the dusty countryside for an exclusive coastal resort, where everything finally breaks down. But Yunior can't recognise the end of the relationship, nor his culpability. There were "causalities", he claims. "I'm like everybody else: weak, full of mistakes "
The story acts as a primer for the collection. Infidelity, cultural typing, family and emigrant dynamics recur and reconfigure throughout. Though not set in strict chronological order, the stories span Yunior's life from childhood through to middle age. He learns his trade in womanising young, from his father, who takes him along on his "pussy runs", and his older brother, Rafa, a handsome tearaway who will die prematurely of cancer after sleeping with half the New Jersey female population. Yunior, bookish, bright, but prone to dope-smoking and apocalyptic nightmares, has regular girlfriends, some of whom he's smitten by the chic-geeks, "alternatinas", and Latinas. Other paramours are less suitable: his brother's care-home plaything, his teacher, married women. To none of them is he faithful; he appears constitutionally incapable.
Díaz is master of the coruscating hip demotic. Yunior's narrative style is a mixture of identities and languages, Spanish slang, English slang, sci-fi, highbrow, street, Ameri-vario-cana. He's also extremely funny and, though frequently pitiful, is not self-pitying, even in midlife when he instigates the most catastrophic of his heartbreaks. Prior to this there's a wry gallows charm to his promiscuous ineptitude. In "Alma" his own diary busts him to his college girlfriend: result as follows.
You dance across the lawn, powered by the last fumes of your outrageous sinvergüenzería. Hey, muñeca, you say, prevaricating to the end. When she starts shrieking, you ask her, Darling, what ever is the matter? She calls you:
a cocksucker
a punk motherfucker
a fake-ass Dominican.
She claims:
You have a little penis
no penis
and worst of all that you like curried pussy.
(Which really is unfair, you try to say, since Laxmi is from Guyana, but Alma ain't listening.)
Each story dances with infidelity, each is kinetic, virile, and moves perfectly; each majestically exposes desire and inconstancy, less a moral waltz, more venereal merengue. Yunior's macho perspectives power all but one story - the beautiful and more formal "Otravida, Otravez", which is narrated by Yasmin, a hospital laundry worker. She is conducting an affair with a married man. His wife in the DR sends pleading letters "How long did it take before your wife stopped mattering" which Yasmin intercepts and reads compulsively. She's the perfect hauntee, a woman who suspects that at any moment she too might be replaced. A quarter of the way into the book, the intuitive, considerate tone leavens the heavy testosterone of the proceedings.
The most affecting narratives are those told in the second person a potentially overpowering device in the hands of a lesser writer. The final story, "The Cheater's Guide to Love", is a masterpiece of skill and sensitivity, which makes full use of this mode's fascinating inside-out quality. The ruin of Yunior's best relationship and his lack of recovery are catalogued over six years. He cannot move on. "And then one June night you scribble the ex's name and: the half-life of love is forever." This is a soul's voice, a viewpoint that clarifies Yunior's interiority, provides emotional honesty in the face of his deceits. The stakes are much higher in this tale. Affairs have disastrous consequences, male characters contend with pregnancies; "that smelly bone better off buried in the backyard of life" is unearthed in all its dirty glory. Díaz performs an astounding feat of literary sympathy. For 200 pages Yunior has been the perpetrator of unforgivable crimes, but in the end his sorrow and sorrowfulness become ours.
There's never full explanation of the infidelities, though those betrayed ask: why? Yunior cites factors not getting enough sex, not getting great sex, getting great sex but wanting it elsewhere too. Excuses are rendered senseless under the devastation wrought not only upon the women in his life, but self-sabotagingly upon Yunior himself. The collection isn't a therapeutic, psychoanalytic traverse through habitual sexual indiscretion there are no veiled diagnoses or counselling sessions, just amateur wisdoms provided by Yunior's friends. Nor is the propulsive cultural/biological "Ass-Engine" scrupulously examined, and it's better, realer, harder fiction for it. Instead, the reader is presented with a string of romantic fuck-ups and fallouts, in which the protagonist eventually learns, if not how not to cheat, then how to empathise with and humanise women. In so doing he painfully metabolises grief, acknowledges his "lying cheater's heart", and begins to understand, by its disqualification, what love means.
Sarah Hall's The Beautiful Indifference is published by Faber.






